Monday, November 5, 2012

The Golden Rule


Is anyone else as shocked as I have been at the tone of disrespect and dishonor that has been present throughout this year's election campaigns? Is this to be the new norm? It seems more and more every day that common courtesy and civility are diminishing before our eyes.
In my Organizational Ethics class we were discussing whether we felt society was more rude and unpolished or less rude and unpolished than it used to be. I thought I'd share some of my thoughts about this as it's a subject near and dear to me. As parents we have such a battle in this world to instill the character qualities of consideration, respect, empathy, and love in our children. Here is some of what I wrote:

It can clearly be seen, especially by those who have lived through several decades, that society today is much more rude and unpolished than it was many years ago. This is probably related to the deterioration of caring and mutual respect that used to permeate the character of people but is not always easily found within hearts today. Manners are a reflection of respect and caring about those around us, and along with their rapid decline over the past few decades, it can be seen that love and empathy for others has lessened as well.

 It is interesting to note that manners and character training used to be part of public education, as can be seen in antique textbooks, such as the McGuffey Readers that were used in public schools a little more than a century ago. A sample of such character training can be seen in McGuffey’s Fifth Reader:

I live for those who love me,

For those who know me true;

For the heaven that smiles above me,

And awaits my spirit, too;

For the cause that needs assistance,

For the wrongs that need resistance,

For the future in the distance,

    And the good that I can do. 
 

This seems in stark contrast to the character training of children today, which is practically nonexistent in many homes and schools. This is unfortunate because it has contributed greatly to the ongoing corrosion of manners and mutual respect among common people.

  As Christians we are called to be the salt and light in the world (Matthew 5:13-16). One way we can do this is to take the time to learn manners and etiquette if we have not already learned them and teach them to our children as well so that others can see that we care about them. In this way we may show Christ to the world.
The simple cure for rudeness and disrespect can be found in the Bible in Luke 6:31, “Do to others as you would have them do to you”. If everyone would abide by this Golden Rule in today’s society, we would be back on the right track towards the common goals of love and mutual respect.
 
This may seem obvious to most but how many of us really stop and take the time to reflect on this simple principle? Obviously this did not occur to many politicians participating in the election this year. How can we ever expect improvement in this area if our leaders can't even abide by the Golden Rule?

Sunday, August 19, 2012

Joe Froggers

Photo from: yankeemagazine.com
My grandmother, who was the mother of 15 children, ran an immaculate and well-organized household. As a little girl I always aspired to be just like her!! She was so special and sweet all the time, to everyone. She was the very soul of hospitality and on any given day or night of the week she might have had guests in her home for meals. She was always prepared though.

One particular thing I remember about Grammy is that she always had her cookie jars full. When I was about 7 or 8 years old I used to go into her pantry just to look at the cookie jars. I remember my head was just a little above the counter top where they were placed and I would rest my chin on it and stare at them. There were always sugar cookies and there were always molasses cookies, a regular staple in Maine households where I grew up. Yep, I'm a transplanted Yankee. (After I write this blog post I will definitely never be able to visit the Confederate garage up in Walker County, Georgia, EVER. I don't think they do Yankee up there. If you think I'm joking--google it, I'm serious!)

As an adult I have not lived up in the north country very much, but I still love the food that we ate growing up. (Can you say Lobstah???) Molasses cookies are something I hardly ever make because my southern husband and children just do not like them too much. My two oldest children do, though, but that is because they lived several years in Maine when they were very small and they are familiar with them.

Sooo, for a long time now I've been looking for a good molasses cookie recipe. Grammy died four years ago this month so I couldn't get hers. I researched online for a while and finally decided to try a recipe I found at Yankee Magazine. Well, guess what? Mr. J and all the kids ate 'em AND liked 'em. I didn't even offer them to Mr. J because I know he hates molasses cookies. He took it upon himself to mosey on into the kitchen and take a bite of one. Then he comes into the room and says "Hey, Hon, these cookies are great!" To which I responded, "Huh? Those are molasses cookies." He said, " I know but they're good". To which I thought to myself, "I'll make a Yankee out of that boy yet...".

 But I digress.... the truth is that I actually made these cookies because I was entranced with the story behind them.It's kinda neat. Plus they are an authentic Yankee recipe and Lord knows I need a little Yankeefying wicked bad by now, ya'll!!!

So get Yankeefied with me and try the Joe Froggers. They are wicked good.

Back to School and Our Curriculum for this Year

'Country Schoolhouse' photo (c) 2011, TumblingRun - license: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/2.0/

It's about that time again. For our family it's actually a little later than usual. We usually start our home school year the first Monday after the 4th of July. It's so hot down here in the summer we figure we might as well spend the hottest days working on academics and then we have more time to play outside and enjoy going to places when its much cooler, but this year we decided to take a longer break. Tomorrow its back to the books for us :) .
Everyone in the house is anxious to get back to our normal routine, especially me! The fall term at LUO (Liberty University Online) starts on Monday and I have to take Intermediate Algebra... I've been putting it off for five years but now I have to take it as a prereq for Statistics. I have to teach Algebra I to my freshman daughter this year anyway, so maybe this will help us both get through it. She's a lot better at Math than me, though! I'm also taking Marketing, International Business, and Organizational Ethics. Oh, my, it's going to be a long academic year!!! At home this year I have a freshman in high school, a seventh-grader, a fourth-grader, a second-grader, and a pre-schooler.

Has anyone else been feeling the economic crunch in the homeschooling area? Well, we have. In fact, I decided to go through the house, attic, and storage to see what we have for curriculum that we have accumulated over the years. I found a lot of stuff!! In fact, I found so many things that I decided not to buy a lot of new learning materials this year, but to use the ones we already have and supplement with the internet and the library.

Wednesday, August 8, 2012

Recipe Review: Buttertop Bread


When I saw this recipe from the King Arthur Flour blog, Baking Banter, I knew I had to make it.  It looked so buttery and yummy and it was!! This will definitely be made again in our house, especially this winter when we are frequently eating soups and stews. This bread is great for toasting, too, but watch out because it burns very easily! In fact, be sure not to skip the step where you tent with aluminum foil after 15 minutes in the oven because it browns very quickly while baking. Here is the recipe:

                      Buttertop Bread

                
      3 cups King Arthur Unbleached All-Purpose Flour
      1 1/2 teaspoons salt
      3 tablespoons potato flour or 1/3 cup dry potato flakes (I used Hungry Jack potato flakes)
      1/4 cup sugar
      2 1/2 teaspoons instant yeast
      1 large egg
      2 tablespoons soft or melted butter
      3/4 cup to 7/8 cup lukewarm milk ( I actually used about 1/2 cup of evaporated milk, and water   to make 7/8 cup)

Topping

  • 1 tablespoon butter, melted

   


1) Mix and knead all of the dough ingredients together until you've made a smooth, though somewhat sticky dough. If you're uncertain about the amount of milk to use, start with the lesser amount; you can always add more as you go along.
2) Place the dough in a lightly greased bowl, or an 8-cup measure, which allows you to track the dough's progress as it rises. Cover, and allow the dough to rise for about 90 minutes; it should become quite puffy, though it may not double in bulk.
3) Gently deflate the dough, and shape it into a 9" log. Place it in a lightly greased 9" x 5" loaf pan.
4) Using a sharp knife, cut the loaf vertically down the middle from one end of the pan to the other, almost but not quite to the bottom of the pan.
5) Cover the loaf with lightly greased plastic wrap (or a shower cap), and allow it to rise until its top has crowned about 1" over the rim of the pan, about 45 to 60 minutes. Towards the end of the rising time, preheat the oven to 350°F.
6) Bake the bread for 35 to 40 minutes, until it's golden brown. Tent it lightly with aluminum foil after about 15 minutes of baking; because of its somewhat higher sugar content, this bread tends to over-brown if not covered.
7) Remove the bread from the oven, and brush it with melted butter. Cool completely before slicing.
8) Store bread, tightly wrapped, for several days at room temperature; freeze for longer storage.
Yield: 1 loaf, about 18 servings.

Here is what it looked like after it baked and cooled:


Didn't last long around here!



Thanks for Visiting!

Saturday, July 28, 2012


I think I may have already mentioned that our oldest son Michael is in the Army National Guard.
Well, last summer we found out that he had volunteered to detach from his unit to go on a deployment for a year. This was a hard time for me as he was barely 18 years old. Even though he had gone to Army basic training and Airborne school and training to be a rigger the year before, this time was different because he would be halfway around the world. Even though he had been jumping out of airplanes and helicopters with parachutes that he had packed himself all year, this leaving the country idea was terrifying for me. At the same time though, his dad and I knew it was a good experience for him and were proud of him for volunteering.



Its been a really rough year for him over there. He's learned a lot about life and now realizes how fortunate we are to be Americans and how many luxuries and conveniences we have that others do not. He has been able to travel and see places that otherwise he may have never seen. He's made a lot of new friends and had many negative experiences and some positive ones that taught him about life in this world. Most of all he has gained so much confidence which brings real joy to my heart to see what a competent young man he has become in such a short time.



I've learned a lot too. It's so hard to let your children go but you have to do it. Its also an exciting time because you are finally realizing rewards for all the hard work you did for so many years. Giving your children over to God when they leave your home is one of the hardest things we will ever do as parents. That's why we need to start doing this as much as possible when they are born. We must always realize that our children belong to God and try to stay focused on this as they grow. If we want them to give God the proper place of headship in their lives they need to know Him as their heavenly Father as early as possible. Watching your young adult children grow into who God wants them to be is such a wonderful experience.




I also learned how much of a debt this country owes to the mothers, wives, children, and families of those whose sons will not be coming home. It is such a sacrifice....and many of us are so ungrateful.






Well, our son is coming home very soon. The closer the day approaches, the longer the time seems to be before we will have him here with us again! We are so proud of him. Yes, its been a very hard year but we thank God for the experiences that allow us to grow.


Wednesday, July 4, 2012

Happy Independence Day!!!

Freedom isn't free.....
Why not pause in our celebrations today and pray for all of our soldiers, both at home and overseas, and for their courageous families? If it weren't for them we wouldn't enjoy the freedom we have!

Saturday, June 30, 2012

God's Hand

Throughout my life whenever times were hard I have always envisioned myself curled up in the palm of God's hand. This always brings me comfort and makes me feel loved and protected from life's hurts and troubles. Right now I am imagining myself nestled in the hand of God because this week we lost our little unborn baby at ten weeks. Heartbreaking disappointment doesn't even begin to describe the anguish we are feeling right now. Still, throughout all of this sorrow we can feel the love and care of God as he holds our family close in His arms.

Wednesday, June 20, 2012

How to Clear Six Kids from a Room.. Fast! (AKA How to Make Kale Chips)

One of the challenges that a mom-to-many children faces is how to ensure that each and every little darling feels loved, special, and unique. One of the ways I try to make this happen is to make a special food sometimes that one of the children loves even if the others don't.  For my fifth child and fourth daughter Melodey Grace one of those special things is Kale Chips. I first introduced my family to Kale Chips last year while I was on a weight-loss program. To be honest with you I never thought I would eat such a thing let alone try to get my children to eat it. Surprisingly half of the children did like it and I did too; it's great for snacking and really good for you, too!

Now, I would be sincerely remiss if I didn't first warn you about some things you should be aware of before attempting to make kale chips. Do not plan to make them if you are expecting anyone to come to your house, or if your husband is about to come home for lunch (oops), or if your home is located very close to another home and your windows are open. Trust me. You just don't want to. Unless you are a health freak or you have a strange olfactory condition that causes you to be unable to smell anything or you have a little darling that you really want to please you may just want to find another resource from which to obtain kale chips. If you are one of the aforementioned people then here's how to make them:

Start with the following ingredients: a head of well-washed kale, olive oil, and salt.

Preheat the oven:

Dump the kale into a big bowl and drizzle 2 Tablespoons of olive oil over it.


Then use your hands to toss the kale and olive oil together.


Spread it out on a baking sheet or maybe two if you're ambitiously hopeful like I am that ALL the kids are going to love kale THIS TIME.

At this point you can LIGHTLY salt the kale if you want. I said it like that cause I ignored that part and let's just say next time I won't even add any until it's done and then salt to taste.

Place the sheet(s) into the preheated oven and set the timer for ten minutes.

Wait about 1-2 minutes. This is the point where you should realize that you have the kitchen to yourself and possibly even the whole house.....

Sit down and enjoy your favorite Gooseberry Patch cookbook while having  20 minutes to yourself for the first time in about ten years.... But don't forget to get up in ten minutes to turn the kale...


Let it cook for ten more minutes after turning it and then take it out and let it cool. Move it to a plate and light a nice candle.





Start hollering for all the kids to come-n-get-it!!!



When they all come tromping  back inside try hard to convince your two littlest kids that you just made something really yummy that's gonna make em grow as big as your 9 year old overnight!!!


















Take goofy pictures of the two littlest kids trying to pretend that they like kale.


Watch anxiously for your little darling that loves kale chips and when she comes running in show her the yummy plate of deliciousness that you made just for HER.



Enjoy the "Thanks mommy I feel so special" smile that she bestows upon you and snap a picture of it to remember on another not so smiley day...


Get back to the work of the day in your fruity-candley-smelling house and bask in the happiness of  making someone happy.

Leave the plate of kale out on the table for the "kids" to pick on all day. Reap the added benefit of a great big (yet private) laugh for yourself later that afternoon when your special little darling of the day skips in and grabs a big handful of kale and yells "Thanks so much Mommy for making me this green KELP stuff!! Can I please  have some more??

Smile sweetly and say "yes, sweetie, you can go ahead and finish it ALL up, if you like."

Wash the empty plate feeling content in the knowledge that at least one of your six children ate a vegetable today without coercion. Write the two words kelp and kale in the kids vocabulary notebook for the next school year.

Thanks for visiting!


Kale Chips Recipe link: http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&frm=1&source=web&cd=1&ved=0CGwQFjAA&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.foodnetwork.com%2Frecipes%2Fmelissa-darabian%2Fcrispy-kale-chips-recipe%2Findex.html&ei=6TniT_7OMon48gShjPWGCA&usg=AFQjCNGvi8H_ApeaoC6c68R3jFYsRIFVsw&sig2=HL4As_kQh6-9lMH4B1MS3Q





Monday, June 18, 2012

Hi! I'm Mrs. J. I'm so excited to begin blogging here! I'm using this first posting as an opportunity to introduce myself and share my intentions for this blog.

In a nutshell I am a 39-year old,  married ( for 18 years), stay-at-home, homeschooling, mom to 6 children still living at home and I am also an Army mom to a grown son who is currently deployed overseas. If you're keeping track that's seven children and I am expecting a baby in January 2013. I also attend college at Liberty University Online in the  Business program and will have earned my degree next spring. However, I consider my family to be the work I have chosen as most important in my life and I have a wonderful husband who shares the vision of raising a big, beautiful family with me. I have been extremely blessed and thank God for spoiling me like He has.

When I was a little girl back in the 70's I remember how my precious mom who stayed at home to take care of us used to take us "visiting" at the homes of some of her friends in our little town during the week. We used to run off and play with the other ladies' children while Mom and her friend(s) would chat, share recipes, housekeeping tips, praise and prayer requests,  and laughter while they sipped their coffee. I loved going visiting with my Mom and have some great memories from those times.

The purpose of this blog is to go visiting and share fun things from my everyday life with my readers. My life as a mom of 7  is very full and I feel like I have a lot to share with others that they may find useful or interesting and sometimes just funny!! I think writing a blog is a great way to go visiting and share some of the things listed above with my readers. Hopefully many of you will want to come visiting to my blog on a regular basis to get to know me and share my journey!